The other day I was hanging out with my buddy Joe.  During the course of the evening, we met a couple of attractive girls around where I live. 

Things looked really promising…The one with me was really cute and the girl with Joe looked like she was really into him.  In fact, she was sending ALL the signals of interest.  All Joe had to do was make a move and she would be his!

So what happened?

Well, after spending about a half hour on the beach alone, Joe comes back with this girl who immediately tells her friend “We gotta go!”

Needless to say, this totally *interrupted* my night!

After the girls left, I asked Joe what happened.  Here’s an almost word-for-word description of what he said:

“Dude, we were walking hand-in-hand on the beach.  I wanted to make sure she was interested in me, so I pulled out my cell phone and showed pictures of my kitten back home.  Then I started talking about how much I love animals…”

I was literally SPEECHLESS!

Here he was holding hand with an attractive girl ALONE on a beach and he starts talking about freakin’ kittens!!!

This girl was practically giving him the “Kiss Me” signal and Joe decides that he needs to still work on creating attraction.  Furthermore, instead of doing something that could increase the sexual chemistry, he pulls out the “nice guy” routine and even takes a step into “creepy guy” territory.

Now you might be wondering: “What does this have to do with me?”

Well this story about my friend Joe left me wondering about all the little things that guys do which hurt their success with women.  And as I discuss on my website, you NEVER fail because of your looks, or financial situation or age.

It all comes down to your attitude whenever you’re around a woman.

Truth is Joe failed because he thought that the girl wanted a nice guy, even though she was already interested in the fun, awesome person that he normally is. In essence, she wanted the fun, flirty guy that’s naturally attractive to women.  Joe failed because he second guessed his instincts and tried some lame gimmick.

When you’re around women, you don’t have to do some elaborate routine just to impress her.  In fact, all you have to do is know how to create the RIGHT kind of conversation.

I’ve found that a naturally attractive guy knows how to flirt.  His conversation skills contain that perfect balance of fun versus seriousness.  Furthermore this guy should be interested in a girl but not TOO interested.

To give you an example, here a few qualities of the attitudes that women WANT from a man:

1) He doesn’t seem overly interested

2) He isn’t afraid to tease and be a little playful

3) He acts like a gentleman, but is not a “Sugar Daddy”

4) He lives his life on his own terms

5) He takes bold action

These are just a FEW qualities of an attractive guy.  The point I’m trying to make is you might be failing with women simply because you don’t give women what they really want in the men they date. 

In order to truly succeed with women, you have to embrace all the traits of a high status man.  PLUS, you need to understand how to talk to women.  This means flirting and creating that sexual chemistry that’s necessary for creating attraction. 

So don’t be like my friend Joe.  When you’re talking to an attractive girl, focus on establishing that fun, flirty vibe that can quickly attract her interest.

There’s a vast difference between acknowledging a woman and hanging all over her. When a man clings to his girlfriend, she’s actually being turned off by his behavior. His display of neediness is proof that, deep down, he is insecure. In contrast, men who are truly confident don’t require the constant attention of their girlfriends, and they’re all the more attractive for it.

If you want to attract women, you need to back off a little. The following are three behaviors that women find attractive, so if you think you’re the needy sort, start adopting them today.
 
Tip #1 – Leave yesterday behind you

Don’t think you’re the only guy who’s been burned by a woman in the past, because you’re not. Let it go. If you don’t, you’ll never stand a chance at a meaningful relationship built upon trust.

Stop comparing your present girlfriend to those few sour apples, because she’s not them. If you don’t, she’ll decide she’s had enough and leave you.

Tip #2 – Get a life

If your relationship is the only exciting thing in your life, it’s time to start changing that. By having a fuller schedule, you’ll have less time to harp on what your girlfriend is doing.

What interests you? Do you have any talents that have taken a backseat to your relationship? Now’s the time to revive them. It’s no secret that women love guys with a lot going for them, so get busy!

Tip #3 – Work on your self esteem

Everybody has confidence issues from time to time, but if taken to extremes, this problem can seriously impact your relationships.

If this sounds like you, it’s paramount that you work to change how you view yourself. Surround yourself with family and friends, and absorb how they think and feel about you. Take an inventory of your positive qualities and skills, and write them down for future reference. Everybody has strengths, and your confidence stems from knowing what yours are.

Final Thoughts

There’s no quicker way to lose a woman than by being clingy. In contrast, if you want to attract women, you must work on yourself first. The qualities that women find attractive are much more than hot looks and a nice set of wheels…they want confidence. And there’s nothing more confident than a man who doesn’t need to be in a relationship in order to be happy.

Case in point, have you EVER thought any of the following:

• “Why won’t she return my phone calls?”

• “Why did she agree to a date, but cancel at the last minute?”

• “Why does she flirt, but get annoyed when I make a move?”

• “Why does she complain about the guys she dates, but doesn’t want a nice guy”

The actions of women can be extremely frustrating!  It seems like they enjoy saying one thing then turning around doing the EXACT opposite.

And this is even more annoying when we think we’re starting to finally understand them.

The other day my buddy Mike was complaining about a girl he recently met.  From what he told me, she showed all the obvious signs of interest:

• SHE approached him

• SHE flirted and carried the conversation

• SHE insisted that they meet for a date

So what happened?

At the last minute she called up and canceled the date.  After that, she wouldn’t return Mike’s phone call OR text messages.

Mike told me this story in the hopes that I had some advice on the matter.

And all I could do was shrug my shoulders and say…

“Women…who knows what goes on in their heads!”

I felt bad that I couldn’t really give any advice to Mike.  That’s because I really felt he handled pretty well.  Since she was showing obvious signs of interest, I was a little baffled as to why this girl flaked out.

Now I’ll be the first to say that you never really  know when a woman is going to something flaky.  You could be having the best time with a woman!  Then she’ll turn around and do something completely BIZARRE!

So I ask the question- “What goes through the minds of women  when they meet a guy?”

Well from what I’ve experienced, the MAJOR difference between the sexes really boils down to one thing:

How we view each situation

Typically a guy will use LOGIC in most areas.  (ie: A girl is flirting with me.  She must be interested!)

On the other hand, women use EMOTIONS to decipher a situation.  (ie: He’s interested, but does he really like me.  Let’s do a test to find out)

Yes, women are testing you.

And when I think about Mike’s situation in hindsight, I realized that he didn’t recognize a test at some point in their conversation. 

My opinion is this girl was interested when she met him.  But she tested Mike to see if he was the type of guy who challenges women…

AND he failed!

The truth is almost every woman you meet will probably do some form of a mind game to judge your reaction.  They simply can’t help it.

They do this because of a specific emotional reaction they’re trying to create in themselves or in YOU.

For instance if a woman is flirting without wanting to “hook up”, she’s probably wants to feel sexy by having guys hit on her.

Or if a woman doesn’t return your call, you didn’t build up a serious emotional connection.

Or even better:

When a girl cancels your date, she’s trying to create a situation where she’s in the power position.  In other words, this girl wants to see how much she can dominate your actions and turn you into the pursuer.

How can you stop this from happening?

Honestly, that’s a hard one to answer.  Some girls simply don’t know what they want. Others only date guys who pass their tests.  And a few simply like the feeling of having power over guys.

To prevent this from happening to YOU, it’s important to do the following:

1) Understand what motivates the different women you meet

2) Identify the moments when they’re testing you

3) IMMEDIATELY challenge a girl when she starts acting like a flake.

You really can’t control the actions of women.  But you can make them understand that you’re the type of guy who doesn’t deal with any bulls**t in your dating life.

You’ll find that directly challenging a woman is one of the best ways to avoid weird behavior AND make them do what you want!

What these men don’t realize is that confidence is central this character’s success with women. In short, he’s an alpha male. Continue reading to learn five tips aimed at increasing your confidence with the opposite sex.

Tip #1 – Don’t act insecure

Alpha males know their worth inside and out. With that said, the first step toward becoming confident is to act the part. You may come off as inferior if:

• You stick your hands in your pockets.

• You fidget.

• You slouch.

• You cross your arms.

• You look or act nervous.

• You don’t own your space.

In contrast, here are some common displays of an alpha:

• You display direct eye contact.

• You never look around the room.

• You own your space by leaning back and looking comfortable.

• You breathe by using your stomach, not your chest.

Try these behaviors the next time you’re in public, and see how people respond. The results should amaze you.

Tip #2 – Think positively

Identify your weak and strong points. Get to the source of your lacking self esteem by looking within yourself, and figure out what inhibits you. On that same note, acknowledge your accomplishments and talents, and remind yourself of them daily.

Once you’ve assessed your personal feelings, it’s time to work on your body language. By their very nature, alpha males are calm and relaxed, so whenever you’re in a social situation, envision yourself like this, and live it.

Tip #3 – Have Fun
 
When interacting with women, unconfident men are nervous and fidgety. They stress over what she’s thinking, doing, and saying, and as a result, they turn her off.

Confident men, on the other hand, are the complete opposite. Rather than worry about the outcome of a date, they relax and enjoy the ride. As a result, they come off as calm and collected, which is a complete turn on to females.

A man who is secure in his own skin does not need a woman’s approval of him. Our feelings inside will always be reflected on the outside, so placing too much importance on what others think will only hurt your chances.

Conclusion

There is only one secret to attracting the opposite sex, and that is to become an alpha male. Be confident, and command your due respect through powerful body language and confidence. A man doesn’t need fame or fortune to have an amazing sex life; he just needs to know that he’s worth it.

When meeting a girl for the first time, there’s no bond in place, making rejection not so bad. In contrast, the attachment most men develop with their girlfriends makes adjusting to a breakup extremely difficult.

While she may seem sweet, when your girlfriend breaks up with you, her true colors will shine. It’s even harder when you’re dumped out of the blue, leaving you scratching your head in confusion. There’s no surefire means of preventing a breakup, but there are steps you can take to get over a girlfriend faster.

1. Take her off her pedestal:

She’s just another person, no matter how much you disagree. Begin severing yourself from her by throwing out any and all mementos of her, including presents and pictures. Get a buddy to help you if you can’t do this by yourself. Find solace in knowing that, with time, your tender feelings towards her will dull. In the meanwhile, stop worshipping the ground she walks on.

2. Stop talking to her:

A lot of guys have difficulty with this, but it’s paramount. Don’t go anywhere you know she spends a lot of time at, and erase her number from your phone. The same applies to the Internet: no email, Facebook, or other social-networking sites. If she contacts you instead, don’t pick up. I know this sounds hard to do, but remember that she broke up with you. If, after dumping you, she blows up your inbox, she’s just teasing you. Don’t let her.

3. Don’t suppress your emotions:

As men, we were raised to never cry or whine, but there are moments in life when it’s unhealthy to bottle up our feelings. When a girl dumps you, you’re more than entitled to feel upset, and that’s when friends and family come in. Take the time to go out with your buddies, and talk it out with them. You’ll feel so much better once you do.

4. Dodge her:

If you see her across the room at a social event, look the other way. You’re not acting bitter…you’re protecting your dignity. If she approaches you, be cordial, but nothing more. Approaching her will be the same as picking the scab off of a wound, never allowing it to heal.

5. Don’t be childish:

If you’ve given her gifts during your relationship, let her keep them. Not only is it childish to do so, but once those gifts are within your possession again, you’ll only start thinking about her. 

6. Don’t hibernate:

Life isn’t over because you got dumped. By rejoining the living, you’ll only feel better. Occupy your mind with other activities, and sooner than later, you won’t even think about your ex. Take charge of your mind, and refocus it in healthier ways.

Final Thoughts

Every guy gets dumped, but not every guy knows how to deal with it. With a few simple steps, you’ll be well on your way to recovery. It’s all about your state of mind, so keep things positive. Before you know it, a new and better love will come.