Guys get a bad rep for not being sensitive enough, but would you believe me if I said that they tend to have the hardest time getting over a breakup? What’s more, studies have shown that men fear breakups more than they do rejection.

When meeting a girl for the first time, there’s no bond in place, making rejection not so bad. In contrast, the attachment most men develop with their girlfriends makes adjusting to a breakup extremely difficult.

While she may seem sweet, when your girlfriend breaks up with you, her true colors will shine. It’s even harder when you’re dumped out of the blue, leaving you scratching your head in confusion. There’s no surefire means of preventing a breakup, but there are steps you can take to get over a girlfriend faster.

1. Take her off her pedestal:

She’s just another person, no matter how much you disagree. Begin severing yourself from her by throwing out any and all mementos of her, including presents and pictures. Get a buddy to help you if you can’t do this by yourself. Find solace in knowing that, with time, your tender feelings towards her will dull. In the meanwhile, stop worshipping the ground she walks on.

2. Stop talking to her:

A lot of guys have difficulty with this, but it’s paramount. Don’t go anywhere you know she spends a lot of time at, and erase her number from your phone. The same applies to the Internet: no email, Facebook, or other social-networking sites. If she contacts you instead, don’t pick up. I know this sounds hard to do, but remember that she broke up with you. If, after dumping you, she blows up your inbox, she’s just teasing you. Don’t let her.

3. Don’t suppress your emotions:

As men, we were raised to never cry or whine, but there are moments in life when it’s unhealthy to bottle up our feelings. When a girl dumps you, you’re more than entitled to feel upset, and that’s when friends and family come in. Take the time to go out with your buddies, and talk it out with them. You’ll feel so much better once you do.

4. Dodge her:

If you see her across the room at a social event, look the other way. You’re not acting bitter…you’re protecting your dignity. If she approaches you, be cordial, but nothing more. Approaching her will be the same as picking the scab off of a wound, never allowing it to heal.

5. Don’t be childish:

If you’ve given her gifts during your relationship, let her keep them. Not only is it childish to do so, but once those gifts are within your possession again, you’ll only start thinking about her. 

6. Don’t hibernate:

Life isn’t over because you got dumped. By rejoining the living, you’ll only feel better. Occupy your mind with other activities, and sooner than later, you won’t even think about your ex. Take charge of your mind, and refocus it in healthier ways.

Final Thoughts

Every guy gets dumped, but not every guy knows how to deal with it. With a few simple steps, you’ll be well on your way to recovery. It’s all about your state of mind, so keep things positive. Before you know it, a new and better love will come.