“God must be sad, because heaven’s missing an angel.”

This cheesy pick-up line is probably the saddest example of how some men flirt with girls. Unfortunately, lame attempts at approaching the opposite sex don’t end there. When it comes to effective seduction, most men don’t have a clue.

A lot of guys only scratch the surface when attempting to flirt. In their minds, if they can just strike up a conversation with a girl, they’re in. Unfortunately, true seduction is much more complex, requiring the demonstration of sexuality and physical attraction. When you put these all together, you have to show off an attractive personality in order to catch a woman’s interest.

In other words, you have to establish a rapport.

Rapport is just a fancy word for flirting, but with one major difference…it’s effective. When two people have established a rapport together, they have a genuine interest in each other. In short, they’ve clicked.

If you’re unsure of how to make flirting through rapport work for you, continue reading. The following are 5 tips on flirting with girls . Incorporate these into your seduction efforts, and you’ll be leaps ahead of the male competition.

Tip #1 – Understand flirting

Flirting is more than just complimenting a girl. If you want her to return the gesture, you have to create sexual tension. In short, when a woman feels sexual tension towards you, she’s attracted, but she’s unsure of how you feel. This only heightens her interest in you.

Flirt with her the very second you meet her, thereby setting the wheels in motion. From there, joke around and lightly tease her. By play fighting with her, you’ll create an indirect feeling of rapport within her psyche, and she’ll crave you even more.

Tip #2 – Be cocky, but use humor

The mixture of cockiness with humor is a great technique. The idea behind this approach is to elevate your status within her eyes, thereby making her work harder to gain your approval.

For example, if she says something you don’t agree with, contradict her statement (cockiness), but do so in a teasing manner (humor). The combination of these two elements is a recipe for sexual tension. As with anything, however, use this technique in moderation, and see to it that your cockiness doesn’t bleed over into arrogance.

Tip #3 – Create a sexually-tense conversation

Your objective with flirting is to showcase yourself in a sexual light. You want her to view you as a possible lover, not a friend, and to do so, you must incorporate sex into your conversation.

Before you get all hot and bothered, understand that I don’t mean you should act like a pig. Rather, you should introduce the topic of sex in an indirect manner. Telling a few of your friends’ funny sex stories is a good way to accomplish this.

A buddy of mine has a trick that’s worked well for him. In essence, he jokes about marrying the girl, and he’ll banter with her about what their house would be like. Once she says something he can tease her about, he’ll tell her that “it’s over” or he wants a divorce.

The combination of romance and teasing drives women nuts!

Tip #4 – Touch her

Now that you know some elements for a good conversation, it’s time to up the ante. In other words, it’s time to touch her.

If you can establish physical contact with a girl, you’re well on your way to the bedroom. To accomplish this, identify key points during an interaction when it would be appropriate to make contact. If you’re walking through a crowd, grab her hand, and touch the small of her back as you hold the door open for her. When talking to her, touch her arm to stress a point.

These moves are subtle, but believe me…she’ll notice.

Tip #5 – Talk adventurously

Women crave excitement. With that said, the more adventure you’ve got going on in your life, the more attracted she’ll be to you.

Before I get into how you can appear more exciting, I’d like to stress that you should never brag in front of a girl. Arrogance does more harm than good. Instead, inject adventurous stories into your conversation. Wild road trips, crazy travels, or projects you’ve got going on are great for enhancing your image.

Once you’ve grabbed her attention, try talking about all the fun stuff she could do with you. Once again, don’t brag. Instead, mention a few of the things you enjoy that she might also be interested in. This will further convince her that she’s attracted to you.

Final Thoughts

If you want to learn tips on flirting with girls, you’ll have to abandon the cheesy pick-up lines, and learn how to really talk to women. By establishing a high status and sexual nature from the start, you’ll be well on your way to creating the rapport necessary for successful flirting. Incorporate these 5 tips into your efforts, and any woman will be putty in your hands.

Showing off your hot set of wheels, running your mouth about how much money you have, or boasting about how important your job is may seem like a good way to grab a girl’s attention, but it’s not. Bragging actually portrays weakness, and it will do you more harm than good.

Now that we’ve cleared that up, let’s delve into the topic at hand – what is the right way to flirt. In essence, flirting is a subtle but fun way to show a girl you’re interested in her. Just for a moment, imagine yourself talking to a girl for the very first time. She’s cute, she seems interested in the conversation, and even better…she appears to be giving you “the eye.”

This type of sexual tension is, in reality, part of the human mating ritual. From it, we determine if the attraction is mutual, and in turn, whether or not to move forward. When flirting, try to incorporate all the qualities of masculinity that women find attractive (leadership, confidence, humor, etc.) But for the sake of this discussion, know that women generally respond to men who are confident and in touch with their emotions.

Flirting is your chance to demonstrate that you have these core character traits women find appealing in a guy. Perhaps the most important element to flirting is the use of your nonverbal cues, also known as your body language. Did you know that only 10 percent of communication is verbal? That’s right! The remaining 90 percent of communication is expressed through a person’s actions.

With that said, don’t think that simply talking to a girl will make her interested. Two guys can say exactly the same thing, but deliver completely different messages, so you’re going to have to learn how to use your gestures, voice, and overall body language to make your message more penetrating.

Another important aspect in flirting effectively is to know the difference between a romantic interest and a platonic interest. It wouldn’t be an understatement to say that women have an almost innate instinct to flirt, regardless of whether or not they’re genuinely interested in a guy. It’s a gray area that creates a sense of confusion for many men, and that’s why it’s important to understand flirting

HUMOR

Whenever they do one of those polls asking what women want in a man, humor ALWAYS comes up in the top 3.

And if you looked carefully at any ‘attract and seduce’ course, you’ll find that most of the information covers laughter and how it builds attraction.

Whether it’s called cocky-funny, teasing, negging or sarcasm, HUMOR is critical to your success with women.

But many guys get it completely wrong when they try to be funny around women.

In order to get them laughing and attracted at the same time, you have to understand the principles.  That’s why it’s important to follow these 4 RULES of humor.

RULE #1: Don’t be a Clown 

Being funny NEVER means acting like a clown.

Acting this way will make you seem like you’re doing a “Try Hard”.  This is when a guy is obviously trying to make a woman laugh. 

This will lowers your social status and makes you seem like you’re desperately seeking her approval.  Furthermore, when you do slap-stickey humor, women will be laughing…

But it’ll be AT you, not WITH you.

Sure, comedians can get women laughing, but they almost never get laid!

RULE #2: Tease Her

5th Graders can be pretty smart sometimes. At this age, if a boy likes a girl, he’ll pull her hair and call her names.

Now I don’t recommend pulling her hair (for now), but TEASING women is probably the best way to use humor. This doesn’t mean being a jerk. Instead it’s about treating her in a way that shows you’re NOT afraid to be yourself and tease her.

You can tease her by:

• Giving her a nickname
• Mocking her voice
• Playfully messing with the things she’s saying

Teasing a woman is a great way to assume familiarity.  If you just met her, and you’re ALREADY teasing her, this can help you quickly break down that uncomfortable period where you’re getting to know one another.

RULE #3: Use Your Body Language

Look at the great comedians and you’ll see a common pattern…They all know how to use their entire body to tell a joke. They’ll make facial expressions, use props, gesture with their hands and use EVERYTHING they’ve got to make people laugh. 

Again, you don’t want to be a clown around women.  But remember your BODY LANGUAGE can add congruence to the things you’re saying. So as you’re teasing her, you want to establish physical contact in a way that’s showing that you’re a guy who is not afraid to play around with her.

This can include:

• Playfully swatting her
• Pushing her away, then pulling her back into a hug
• Doing games like ‘thumb war’, and ‘hand slapping’

The point here is to use your humor to break the touch barrier while making her laugh at the same time!

RULE #4: Do Other Things

Humor should be a spice that flavors a conversation. It shouldn’t be the main course.

When you’re ONLY teasing and making women laugh, you’re NOT showing the other parts of your personality. That’s why it’s important to do other things that’ll help you build and maintain attraction.

So while you’re making her laugh, you also want to:

• Establish physical contact
• Build deep rapport
• Tell stories
• Ask her questions
 
Doing all of these things will help you seem more well-rounded and interesting!

When it comes to creating attraction, humor can be your MOST effective tool when you’re talking to a woman.  So make sure you’re getting it right!  By following these 4 rules, you’ll create that fun, flirty vibe that’s always helps you get the girl.