Boy meets girl

Boy gets girl’s number

Boy calls up girl and sets up the first date.

Boy shows up on girl’s doorstep with flowers (or a fancy gift), brings her to an expensive restaurant and talks about how he REALLY likes her.

Girl quickly ends the date and doesn’t answer any of his follow-up phone calls.

This is familiar because it’s something that almost every guy has done at some point in his dating life.

The truth is we’ve all been PROGRAMMED to behave this way. In your average romantic movie, the male character wins over a girl’s affection by professing his undying love. And if you’ve ever watched one of these movies with a girl, you’ll see how emotional and choked up she gets.

So naturally, it seems logical to think that romantic gestures on your first couple of dates are the best way to attract her interest.

My question is- Should you be romantic when you first meet a woman?

The short answer is NO. And here’s the reason why…

Men and women approach dating in different ways. We guys pretty much know we like a girl before the date begins. If she’s attractive and seems interesting, we’re already hooked.

For us, the first couple of dates is the time where we’re obsessed with proving ourselves (and maybe get a little action)! And the one way that’s been proven to work is to do the “romantic” gestures we see “working” in Hollywood movies.

Women on the other hand, view dating as a way to “qualify” a guy. Sure she might be interested, but in truth she’s also subconsciously looking for the specific qualities which can ELIMINATE a guy as a potential dating partner.

ONE wrong move and you’ll get the “Let’s Just Be Friends” speech!

So when you come on too strong with the romantic gestures, you show that you really don’t care about who she is as a person. Instead you’re giving away your power and showing that you’re already into her before she’s even proven herself.

A woman wants to feel like she’s EARNED a guy’s interest. And not solely because of her looks. While she’s still trying to figure him out, he’s already demonstrating his interest.

So what do women want from men?

The answer is all girls are looking for one primary thing:

SEXUAL ATTRACTION

Sexual attraction is that feeling she gets when she’s with a guy who resonates in the EMOTIONAL side of her mind.

You can’t create this feeling by buying her gifts or being romantic. These actions only speak to the LOGICAL side of her mind.

To create sexual attraction, you have to demonstrate the qualities of someone who makes a woman feel excited and stimulated. For instance, the qualities include

• Challenging her actions and statements
• Using humor to tease and banter
• Showing a spontaneous attitude
• Demonstrating a high level of confidence
• Being trustworthy with a little bit of danger
• Showing independence in your life
• Making her feel important

Now the last quality can be a little confusing.

Most guys act romantic because they THINK they’re trying to make her feel important.
This is wrong because at first she’s done nothing to prove herself.

With that being said, you want to show you’re interested & make her feel important as you’re getting to know her. So while you should never show up on your first couple of dates with an armful of roses, you should show your interest IF she’s passing your tests and meets your standards.

In other words, if you’re having a great time and she meets the qualities that you’re looking for, then you can start showing that she’s earning your approval.

Finally, I want to emphasize one important thing…

You ALWAYS want to want to be a gentleman (ie: Opening the door, leading her with your body language, and paying for the first date). But at the same time, you want to also tease and create the sexual tension that’s necessary for attraction.

So ditch the romantic gestures on your first couple of dates, act like a gentleman and use this time to find out if she’s right for you!

It’s the end of a fantastic first date. As you walk her to the door, the question of whether or not to kiss her nags your mind. Your body is telling you to go for it, but your brain is questioning whether a kiss would help or hurt the situation.

Would she want to kiss you? Maybe she didn’t have a good time after all. Perhaps she’s a really good girl who never kisses on the first date. These are just some of many questions guys ponder in this particular scenario.

Seduction experts everywhere endorse kissing on the first date, but I’m not one of them. That’s not to say that I’m against the act, as it’s important to evolve physically in a relationship. I simply mean that it’s paramount you determine whether or not your date would be receptive to kissing.

So how do you go about doing that?

Do You Even Want to Kiss Her?

For starters, don’t kiss just for the sake of kissing. If, at the end of the date, you decide that you’re really not into the girl, forego the kiss all together. She’ll be able to sense a kiss that has zero emotions attached to it. If you embrace a girl whom you have absolutely no feelings for, then you’re nothing more than a tease.

If, on the other hand, the two of you really hit it off, then kissing on the first date can really escalate things. A first kiss can be the perfect end to an evening of fun and companionship. It can send her home with goose bumps, unable to wait until your next date.

Did You Both Click?

Even if the evening went well, how can you know if she’d be receptive to a kiss? The obvious answer to this question lies in the chemistry you felt while on your date. Was the conversation good, or were there too many awkward silences? Was she enthusiastic about going places with you, or did she ask you to take her home early? Answering these questions can provide a lot of insight into the first-kiss dilemma.

What is Her Body Telling You to Do?

Besides the date, one of the best indicators of a person’s intentions stems from their body language. When you were on your date, did she touch you a lot, or was she distant? Even now, standing at her front door pondering a kiss, is she gazing into your eyes, or frantically searching for her keys? Nonverbal cues such as these say a lot without saying anything at all.

A lot of guys are confused when it comes to reading body language, but the truth is that it’s easy! Anytime a girl leans into your personal space, she wants to get closer to you. If she touches her neck, hair, face, or shoulders, her subconscious is indicating that she wants you to touch them at some point. In contrast, if your date is distant and stone faced, you can be certain that she’s not feeling you.

At the end of the day, only you can determine whether or not it’s okay to kiss on the first date. Use your gut instincts, and only kiss her if you feel the desire to. From there, chemistry and body language make it clear just how appropriate locking lips would be. Use your judgment, and you can’t go wrong.

“Do I Want to Date Hot Women?”

I’m not talking about your average girl at the bar who is okay looking.  I’m talking about the kind of woman who walks by and EVERY guy stops what he’s doing.  This is the type of girl that MOST men can only dream of dating.

Almost every guy I’ve met wants to date a woman like this…Yet, most never have a chance!

Why’s that?

Well the answer is simple… Your average guy doesn’t even try!

Typically, when a man sees a woman like this, he’ll have a brief fantasy about what it would be like to date her.  BUT, when it comes time to “man up” and approach, he makes an excuse about how he has no chance.

Allow me to let you in on a little secret…

99% of men make excuses when it comes time to approach a very attractive woman.  Typically, they SETTLE for the woman they think they can get.  Without even trying, these guys simply give up!

On the other hand, there’s the 1% of men who aren’t afraid to take a chance.  Even if they don’t attract the interest of the girl, they STILL have the courage to try!

So what’s my point?

In order to “get” (and date) hot women, you have to take a chance!

To reword a famous quote by Wayne Gretsky, “The only time you have 0% chance of success is when you don’t take a shot!”

Now if you find yourself tongue-tied and unable to approach the beautiful women you see, then you should get to the root of your mental stumbling block.  In fact, there is a two-step solution to this problem.

First, you need to create a POWERFUL mindset when it comes to women.

To get over this hump, you should create a list of affirmations that you review on a daily basis.  These are sayings that you recite which create a positive state of mind.  For instance, you could use affirmations that sound like this:

• “I’m a good looking guy”
• “I can successfully approach women”
• “I have a lot to say to women during a conversation”
• “I am a fun, energetic guy”

With affirmations, you can REPROGRAM your mind to think in a positive manner that’ll make you more attractive and interesting to women.

The second solution is a little more difficult.  You need to understand the RIGHT way to communicate.  The major problem that guys have around attractive women is they simply don’t know how to talk to them.

Honestly, creating attraction with an uber-hot girl comes down to ONE thing: Knowing how to flirt.  If you can flirt, you speak to girls on a level that most guys fail to understand. 

Flirting isn’t about asking questions.  And it’s not about seeking rapport.  In fact, flirting can be quickly created by avoiding statements that guys often use to establish a common interest.

In essence, flirting is about creating sexual tension.  It’s that delicate balance between teasing a woman, while making her work for YOUR attention. 

So if you want to attract (and date) a hot woman, the best way to make an impression is to NOT compliment her or do what other guys do.  Instead boldly approach her and find a way to create that sexual tension that’s necessary for all flirting conversations!  You’ll find that subtly teasing and bantering is one of the BEST ways to attract even the hottest girls around.